Recently, a woman lamented to me on how she sees her hubby only once in two years & the s*x they had during past visits were for procreation, she’s a mother of three. Makes me wonder how we aren’t talking enough about the numbers of economically forced distance marriages in Naija.
Come to think of it, it’s getting worse by the day. Japa (emigrating for greener pasture) compatibility is like a priority in the dating space today. Abroad has become the core of attraction & planB for many, Many are dating for escape, survival & breakthrough but sadly, love is taking the false responsibility.
For the lucky ones, they are finding love & japa-compatibility in one person, while for the hustlers, it’s a one sided scheme & script. Crazy! Don’t let us talk about how grown men & women are actively suspending the thought of marriage now because they only have one foot…in the country & the other foot is negotiating their escape from the jungle called Nigeria.
It so sad how aged parents are running into massive debts for their adult children in their late 20s, 30s & 40s to go abroad just for them to have a decent shot at sanity & hope again. What makes it even sadder is many won’t set their eyes on their precious parent again in this life.
At 60s & 70s, many parents are still bearing the heavy weight of sponsoring adult children abroad. People are accruing so many forceful masters out there. Naija has turn to hell…for dreams & many people are fleeing for their lives.